ربما الحالة التي اصبت بها. قريبة للاحباط التام. الحر والرطوبة، والتطرف العنصري في قبرص. وسفروحيدي الذي طل علينا لفترة قصيرة/ طويلة. تركنا ونحن لم نبدأ الدردشة بعد. الفراق والعودة الى الروتينكوميديا العتق، سبب الاحباط، لربما ما تعودت علية من علاقة الوالد بوحيدة، أي تكرار ما جبلت عليه. ربماالتصرف يختلف كليا. لكن المبدأ والعلاقة والتواصل لازال هو الاساس في العلاقة. رغم الفارق في الزمنوالبيئة وحتي ربما المستوى المعرفي والاته المتحضرة فرق اكثر من نصف قرن من التغيرات الجغرافية .
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كل من سكن ١٣/٢/٣٠ يعرف حدود تصرفه القائم على الاحترام والهدوء . الكبير يُحترم حد التبجيل. هناك هرممتدرج في السلطة المنزلية حسب الأعمار، أي أن السن والقدم في مهنة إدارة العائلة يمارسان الهيمنة . علىراس السلطة هناك رئيس فخري، بالأحرى رئيسة فخرية، تركية الهوى والمنبع، البيبي . كانت لها سلطةمطلقة ، قلما تستعملها ، صارمة مع من هم تابعيها ، وفي راس القائمة الباجي الأم ، وكيف لا ، وهي تنافسهافي طاعة ولي أمر البيت رب العائلة ، ثم العمة العزباء بنتها، على الرغم من مكانتها المميزة ، فهي صاحبةاليد الطولى في تجهيز ما لذ وطاب . الأحفاد في ذيل القائمة . كانت البيبي لا تتنازل عن مكتسبات العمر إلافي حالة واحدة، عند لعب الطاولي معي ، حين ذاك يجري ليّ بوز التسلط . لكن التسلط جزء من تربية آلعثمان ، وقد يستعمل فيه الترلك في تقويم اللسان ، إذا ما زلّ يوماً ، ونطق بما لا يُحمد سماعه . والترلك كماقال صاحب محيط المحيط ، الخفّ أو ما يُلبس في القدمين في البيت من جلد أو قماش . تستعمل البيبي هذاالترلك في فلقة الفم لإسكاته!
كانت الأوامر والنواهي الموضوعة لي كالآتي : عدم وضع الساق على الساق بحضور الكبير من الرؤساء . الوالدة والعمة غير محسوبة ، فمعهم أنا حر في التصرف . التلفزيون عند ظهوره في بغداد كان للأخبارولعزيز علي وعفيفة اسكندر والعلم للجميع فقط ، ويغلق قبل العاشرة مساءً ، واختيار المناهج الأخرى منصلاحية رب البيت .
كان هناك حاجز صلب بيني وبين والدي ، فإذا ما قال لا في تصرف ما فهي لا النافية ، وإذا قال لا لطلب مافهي لا تتبدل حتى لو تدخل الحاكم العصمنلي المطلق . أوامره لا تخالف ، مهما كانت الأعذار ، وطلباته منيلا أتلقاها منه مباشرة بل بوساطة أمي . كذلك هي طلباتي منه لا أتقدم بها مباشرة بل بوساطة أمي المسلحةدائما بعبقرية الإقناع ، كذلك الحال عند أي طلب خاص بي من خارج نطاق الروتين .
كان لوالدي سفرة صيفية إلى تركية ، تبدو كأنها واجب . فهمت من والدتي أنه يلتقي هناك بعشيقة قديمة . أثبتت ذلك بأدلة بصرية . والحال مجموع عدد سفرات الوالد إلى اسطنبول ، قبل وبعد الزواج ، سبعة عشرةمرة . عندما كنت صغيراً كثيراً ما أبكي عند سفره ، فأنا لا أحب أن يغيب عنا طويلا ، وعند عودته كنت أحصلعلى هداياه : كرة صنع اسطنبول ، بوت رياضة . الغريب أنني لم أكن أبكي عند غيابه لأيام طويلة في أوقاتالفيضانات الكبرى في نيسان، وكنت أعلم أنه إما في خيمة مديرية الري في الراشدية أو الطارمية، وفيموقع لا يخلو من خطورة لإمكانية انكسار السداد الترابية .
مرة واحدة بكيت من سلوك والدي الرقيق معي ، إذ قبّلني عند نجاحي في الامتحان الوزاري ، لم أصدق ولمأتوقعها منه.
عندما أتأمل الآن القيم التي أحاطتني في صغري ، بصرامتها ومتانتها ، أدرك ، بالرغم من أنني لم أخترها ،أنها صنعت هذا الذي يتكلم الآن ، وذاك الذي صارع من أجل العيش الكريم والتمسك بقيم الكرامة والكفايةوالنزاهة وحب الناس والخير . حب التعلم ، وتمجيد المعلم، عدم التعالي ، احترام الكبير ، الاستماع للرأيالآخر، الوثوق بالصديق والصداقة ، العطف على الطفل والضعيف، مساعدة المحتاج، نصرة المظلوم ،وبالطبع حب المرأة . هذا ما تعلمته من تربيتي البيتية ، ومن مدرستي ، والمعلمين ، والبيئة الاجتماعيةالشاملة التي كانت تستدخل الحداثة وتستوعبها بهدوء .
نعم .. ليست كل التوصيات والنصائح مقبولة ، حتى لو جاءت من كبير أو معلم . إن الفروقات تظهربالتجربة ، ما بين مفيد وضار ، وما بين عادي واستثنائي . والحال أن الحياة نفسها تتدخل في فرض إطاراتجديدة لم يتوقعها الآباء ولا المعلمون . كان حبي لكرة القدم ليس له حدود، ووالدي اعتقد أن ذلك يلهيني عنوجباتي المدرسية، فمنعني من لعب الكرة إلا في نهاية الأسبوع، كما رفض طلب أستاذ الرياضة من تكليفيباللعب مع فريق المدرسة في تصفيات كرة القدم المدرسية ، مكتفيا بالموافقة على لعبي بكرة السلة . هذا المنعفي كرة القدم سرى حتى على لعب الكرة في التنافس بين المحلات .
ما كان الوالد يعرف لذة ومتعة لعبة كرة القدم ، وكان منعه إياي لا يخلو من تعصب . كانت عصبة صبيانالمحلة من أعضاء الفريق يعرفون مشكلتي ، من هنا كانوا يراقبون قدوم والدي نحو الساحة، ليسهلوا هربيمن جهة خلفية . مرة قام الوالد بدورة تفتيشية ولم يجدني ، فعاد إلى البيت ليجدني في حالة هارب . سألنيإن كنت ألعب في ساحة البستان ، أنكرت وكذبت بإصرار. كان الكذب محرّماً وممنوعاً منعاً باتا في بيتنا ،وكان كذبي في ذلك اليوم له علامات خارجية ، فسحبني من يدي إلى المرآة، وأشّر إلى بصمة خيط كرة علىجبيني اختلطت مع العرق. أنت تكذب! اهتزت الجبال. الكاذب يستحق العقاب . جرّني من يدي ثانية إلىالحديقة قرب التنور، حيث حطب الطرفة ، وهناك نفّذ بي عقاب الفلقة بعود الطرفة المؤلم، وبدلاً من الضربعلى القدمين راح يوجعني بالضرب على الإلية . كان المحتل العثماني قد ترك آثار قوية في العقاب وقليلاً فيالثواب .
السينما خرجت بعض الشيء من رقابة والدي المبالغ بها . أظنها بدت له مساوية لفن الرسم الذي أحبه وقامبتجارب مثيرة فيه مع صديقه أبو زيد . كان موقع سينما الأعظمية وسطاً ما بين الدار والمدرسة والسوق ، كماأن يقظة الحياة الاجتماعية آنذاك ، وكان جلّ من يرتاد السينما من العوائل البغدادية ، ساعد على إذعانوالدي الحارس الأمين على مقاييس التربية والأخلاق القويمة ، فوافق على اعتبار سينما الأعظمية منفذاًثقافياً من منافذ
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